You know that feeling when you’re staring at a half-full Target cart, sipping your third iced coffee of the day, and wondering, What’s next for me?
Maybe the kids are growing up, your routine feels too predictable, or there’s just this whisper in the back of your mind saying, There has to be more. But every time you think about making a change—starting something new, stepping outside your comfort zone—you freeze.
You’re not stuck. You’re in becoming. And becoming? It’s messy, uncomfortable, and the best thing you’ll ever do.
Why We Resist Change (Hint: It’s Not Just Laziness)
Let’s clear something up: If you feel resistance to change, it’s not because you’re lazy or unmotivated. It’s because your brain is wired to keep you safe. And safety? That often looks like staying exactly where you are.
Even if you want something different, your mind clings to the familiar:
- What if I fail?
- What if I’m not good enough?
- What if I start something and don’t finish?
But here’s the truth: Growth never feels like growth. It feels like self-doubt. Like second-guessing. Like standing in the middle of a transition, wondering if you made a mistake.
That discomfort? It’s a sign that you’re evolving.
Leaning Into the Discomfort (Instead of Running From It)
Most people hit that uncomfortable feeling and turn back. But not you. Because you’re learning how to move through it.
Here’s how:
✔️ Recognize the fear for what it is. Your brain isn’t warning you that something is wrong—it’s just warning you that something is new. That’s a big difference.
✔️ Reframe the discomfort. Instead of thinking, This is hard, maybe I’m not meant for this, try This is hard, which means I’m growing.
✔️ Take one small step. You don’t have to overhaul your entire life overnight. Just start. Write the email. Sign up for the class. Schedule the coffee date. One small, scary step at a time.
The Messy Middle: Where Real Growth Happens
Nobody talks about the middle part of change—the part where you’re not who you used to be, but you’re not quite who you’re becoming either. It’s the weird, awkward, what-am-I-even-doing phase.
And that’s where the real transformation happens.
It’s in the moment when you push past your first instinct to quit.
It’s in the days when you don’t feel like it, but you keep showing up anyway.
It’s in every small decision to choose yourself, even when it feels selfish.
And one day? You wake up and realize you’ve become the version of yourself you once doubted was possible.
You Don’t Have to Figure This Out Alone
If this post hit home, take it as your sign: It’s time to get intentional about your growth.
You don’t have to know exactly where you’re going—just that you’re ready to move forward. And if you need support along the way?
Because your becoming? It’s already in motion. Let’s make it happen. 💫
