Showing Up For Yourself When You’re Tired of Showing Up For Everyone Else

Showing up for yourself

It starts small.

 

 

Another “Sure, I’ve got it.”

 

 

What’s one more: “Yes, we’ll be there.”

 

 

Another plate added to the stack you’re already spinning, because saying no feels like dropping the ball.

 

 

The holiday season has a way of magnifying everything.

 

 

 

The noise, pressure, and expectation to keep showing up, for work, for family, for tradition, even when your internal battery is flashing red.

 

 

For the record, you’re not doing it wrong.

 

 

You’re just doing too much.

 

 

What Is Compassion Fatigue (And Why Do You Feel So Tired)?

 

 

If you’re constantly showing up for other people, emotionally, mentally, physically, your nervous system starts to feel it.

 

 

 

We’re not made to pour endlessly without replenishing.

 

 

That bone-deep exhaustion you’re feeling? That foggy, snappy, “why do I feel like I could cry or scream at any moment” energy?

 

 

That’s not laziness.

 

 

That’s compassion fatigue.

 

 

It happens quietly, especially to high-functioning adults who are used to handling it all.

 

 

 

The Boundary You Didn’t Know You Needed

 

 

Saying no doesn’t make you selfish.

 

 

It makes you sustainable.

 

 

You can still love your people and need space.

 

 

You can still value tradition and opt out of the group text.

 

 

Also, you can still host the thing and ask for help this time.

 

 

At The Pursuit Counseling in Fayetteville, GA, we work with people who look like they’ve got it all together… but feel like they’re falling apart inside.

 

 

We help you name the places you’re stretched thin, and build emotional boundaries that protect your peace without burning bridges.

 

 

Because therapy isn’t about becoming someone new.

 

 

 

It’s about coming home to yourself,  especially when you’ve been too busy showing up for everyone else.

 

 

 

How Therapy Helps You Reconnect Without Burning Out

 

 

You don’t have to be in crisis to start therapy.

 

 

You just have to be tired of carrying it all on your own.

 

 

Here’s what therapy might look like when you’re in this season:

 

  • Saying out loud what you’ve been quietly resenting
  • Rehearsing boundary-setting conversations in a safe space
  • Getting curious about where the guilt comes from
  • Building rituals that restore your energy
  • Remembering who you are outside of what you do for others

 

This is the work, not fixing or performing.

 

Just gently putting yourself back on the list, one hour at a time.

 

 

 

 

3 Grounding Practices For When You’re Stretched Too Thin

 

 

Not ready for therapy yet? Here are a few ways to begin reconnecting with yourself:

 

 

1. Pause before saying yes.

 

Even just five seconds can help you notice what you need, not just what’s being asked of you.

 

 

2. Ask yourself, “What would feel supportive right now?”

 

Not what’s easiest. Not what’s expected. What would actually support you in this moment?

 

 

3. Make space for one thing that’s just for you.

 

A walk, playlist, or locked bathroom door and 10 minutes of quiet.

 

You don’t need hours, just intentionality.

 

 

 

 

Your Needs Deserve A Seat At The Table

 

 

Especially during the holidays, it’s easy to disappear behind everyone else’s needs.

 

 

But you matter here.

 

 

Your tiredness, your tenderness, and your need to slow down and reconnect.

 

 

At The Pursuit Counseling, we’re here to help you show up, not just for others, but for yourself.

 

 

We believe rest isn’t earned. It’s essential.

 

 

We believe therapy should feel like a deep breath.

 

 

Finally, we believe you deserve support that feels human.

 

 

 

Book A Free 15 Minute Consultation With Katie

 

 

Whether you’re navigating burnout, setting new boundaries, or just craving a safe place to be honest, therapy can help.

 

 

I’d love to meet you and see if we’re a good fit.

 

 

Book your free consult with me today.

Meet Sathiya

Hey, I’m Sathiya, and I believe healing happens best in safe, meaningful relationships.

Meet Katie

Hey there, I’m Katie. I’m a wife, a mom of six, and a big believer that healing happens when we take care of the whole person, mind, body, and spirit.

Meet Mary

Hi, I’m Mary, and I believe one of the bravest things you can do is show up just as you are.

Meet Jason

Hey, I’m Jason. If life has knocked you off your feet, or left you wondering how to put the pieces back together, I want you to know: you’re not alone.

Meet Julia

Hey there, I’m Julia, and if life feels heavy or messy right now, I want you to know you don’t have to carry it alone.

Meet Adam Glendye

Hey, I’m Adam, founder of The Pursuit and a firm believer that growth doesn’t have to come from breaking down… it can come from leaning in.